Psychology of Loneliness and Evolution therefrom

February 10, 2012

Copyright © 2012, Ram Bansal, All Rights Reserved

Loneliness means not to have someone emotionally and physically close to frequently interact with. Such a close person could be the spouse or someone in mutual love with the person. But he/she is not the one unilaterally loved by the person or unilaterally loving the person, because in both these cases, a greater disappointment is experienced than that from loneliness.

Loneliness is seen as a problem by a majority of persons because of the trend of almost everyone finding a spouse or lover to be emotionally and physically close by. This majority does not have any experience of loneliness, even then spreads its notion about loneliness being a problem. In our world of conformists, only a majority view counts. Here, the basic question arises how a majority, without any experience in loneliness, is given a right to publicise its opinion on loneliness. It is just because they form the majority. Nevertheless, the majority view on loneliness is baseless and worthless.

Loneliness is an asset available to persons with rare qualities in them not understood by others for mainly 3 reasons.

• Introversion of the lonely persons,
• Ignorance of others about the lonely persons, and
• Incapability of others for appreciating the rare qualities.

A person deciding to be lonely by choice does not bother for opinions of others about him/her and keeps on moving on his/her chosen path to conserve and enhance the rare qualities he/she possesses. The rare qualities found in lonely persons are –

1. Straightforwardness without any diplomatic tact,
2. Courage to speak out their minds with fairness and fearlessness,
3. Own value system, often unpopular in the society, such as Atheism,
4. Non-submission to majority view, such as a rat race for limitless wealth and authority,
5. Dedication to a cause with readiness to sacrifice all relational-bonds.

A person is not lonely without any reason, and the first and foremost reason is that he/she dares to stand alone to face the conformists in brute majority. Such a rare courage is either naturally gifted to him/her or cultivated by him/her. Such a courageous person will surely have some other rare attributes to utilize his/her courage and time, and not to sit idle with his/her loneliness. Freedom from others’ interfering in his/her life provides enough opportunities to him/her for being creative and his/her attribute of being an introvert helps him/her in creative ventures.

The creative process begins with thinking as a natural attribute of free mind when free from external interventions and stimulations. This makes the person thoughtful, and the thoughts so evolved, induce the person to verify these from some reliable sources such as great philosophers of the past. This quest turns the lonely person to be studious with books of great value as his/her best friends.

Exhaustive studies always lead to new visions, discoveries, researches, etc making the person an experimenter, by nature to whom, the world of conformists has always been cruel throughout the history of humanity. This leaves no option for the lonely person but becoming a revolutionary. Thus, evolves a rare revolutionary out of the lonely person.

Since the brute majority of conformists does not understand a lonely person particularly, when he/she turns out to be a revolutionary, he/she becomes ruthless towards others and exerts him/her self with full force under his/her command in a spirit of competing with the majority of the conformists and focuses on developing his/her competence for the competition. Thus, evolves a competent person to face the world single-handed.

The above-discussed evolution process applies to every field of activism of the lonely person with the common feature of his/her being an innovator.