Male Psychology at Sex-play

Psychology of a person has a very wide spectrum of ups and downs, amazing to and unexpected even to the person him/herself. It requires a very deep piercing thorough thinking into the human mind to understand its intricate weaves of fine textures of emotions and reasonability, of sensitivity and sensibility.

I am here just to try my chance of piercing into a male mind while he is in bed with his beloved. What his mind intends to tell the beloved through his body language and facial expressions but without uttering any word is traced out to six major points provided below. These are not only my experiences but observations of human behavior in matters of sex over my lifetime.

Some men may discover themselves anew through these words and from what is in between these lines. Women are to know the man's mind while in bed, to be ideally supportive to the respective men.

While in good mood and in the nice company of the desired partner, the male-mind does not loiter on any other issue of life, howsoever important, that may be for him. He is all set to celebrate the moment with all necessary resource under his command being put to use in this celebration. This is not only art of a wholesome sex-play but also the science of it, including psychology and physiology of him-self.

2. I am the whole world of yours

The commitment expressed as above is not without any impositions on the partner who is told in no uncertain terms that he is the whole world of that woman and she need not to have anything else in her view and thoughts at that moment of the celebration. Any distraction of the women from his self may cause irreparable damage to the psyche of the man, and he may never return to the original mentality of his in his later life.

Practical life of every individual and couple has many problems for consideration while conducting business of life. This leaves very little of a person for dedication to his partner of life. But this deficiency is very well compensated while the couple is in bed. Females too have this dedication but that is naturally inbuilt into their anatomy and psychology, but the man has it at least at that particular moment of togetherness. He conducts himself as the most committed person to satisfy her even at his own peril. For such commitments, even empires got lost in the human history.

Males have strong sexual desires with continuity at all times, as compared to female sexuality that is even more intense but transient like a storm. In the real world of civilized humanity, sex is a taboo not displayable or expressible in public view unlike natural conducts of animals. This taboo forces the men to keep their sexual desire suppressed for longer durations than the women and at psychological level they develop an inferiority complex of poverty in this respect. The moment in bed arouses an intense aspiration in man to become the most prosperous through his woman.

In bed, man wishes to forget all his civility and norms of artificial human life and to become the wild beast of his pre-civilization time, once again for his chosen woman. He likes to feel from his woman praises of his wild physical self, instead of those of his mannerism and sophisticated lifestyle. At this moment of his glory, he comes to realize that the civilized norms of humanity have been robbing him of this glory in routine life.

1. Fantasies may not be playing any useful role in routine life and for this reason, not liked from either the self or others. But, this is not so in bed, where mood and character adopt entirely different modes for conducting the immediate business in hand. Here, fantasies from the woman are encouraged, welcomed and well served by the man. I think, this is the only place where fantasies have a positive role in human life.