Counter-point : How various LOVES Influence one’s Mentality

The word ‘counterpoint’ is English substitute to Latin phrase ‘punctus contra punctus’ literally meaning ‘point against a point’. It is different a logical argument in the sense that the argument proves the original view to be logically wrong and provides an alternative, whereas a counterpoint admits truths of the original points and advances other possible truth in conflict with the original point.

I was intimated by an article online how love obtained from different sources influence a person, without mentioning about perception of the person about love, or in other words – whom or what he/she loves. Although, I appreciated the logic, still I differ with the unilateral view expressed in the article. In my opinion, love received from others, such as parents, spouse, friends, children, etc, influence a person depending on what is his/her perception about life and what are his/her priorities of life, apart from circumstantial factors.

There are five assertions of the work, which I shall deal here, one by one.

A bigger brain means more flesh in it but does not ensure more of information content or logical analysis capability. In childhood, skull to body size ration is more than that in adulthood. This ration diminishes gradually with age until the person reaches maturity at about the age of 50. As a general observation, experiential information content, wisdom and emotional maturity of a person increase with his/her age. So, the high brain to body ratio is of no value to a person except its being a way of growth as evolved over thousands of years.

Parental love is showered maximum during a person’s childhood, and the parents provide maximum possible care to their children. This makes the children generally healthier than the grown up persons. A child generally has no views of his/her own on any issue, so his/her mentality is governed by others’ treatment to him/her.

This point makes it clear that a bigger brain is not necessarily healthier. Sex and orgasm are matters of adulthood when the person has his/her own perceptions of life. For a majority of youths, sex and orgasm are their most desired experiences, so these make the person happy. Happiness makes the person healthy physically as well as mentally, but this is unrelated to sex and orgasm only. It is the person’s perception of life that determines what makes him/her happy, making this thing as the cause of good health through happiness.

I had a reasonably good sexually-gratified life, but I had never felt healthier than present when I had not have any sex and orgasm for the last 16 years. My brain too is at its peak creativity at the present. This is because I have sought happiness through my creative works, diverting my energies from sexual desires to intellectual work.

A social isolation may be forced on a person by others or it may be the choice of the person him/herself without any external pressures. These two types of isolations influence the person differently. If it against the person’s will, he/she may feel miserable, but if it is by his/her choice, there shall be no miserable feeling, rather the person shall feel happier after getting isolated.

I would like to differ here drastically. A person’s romantic intimacy with a single person seldom turns into an addiction with both enjoying the pleasures of the romance at frequent intervals. It does not develop into a craving for an implied assurance of loyalty from each other. If you are not afraid of not getting a thing when you desire, you don’t develop a craving. Therefore, one-to-one romantic intimacy never turns out to be an addiction.

When a person has romantic intimacy with more than one partner, he/she presumes the partners also enjoying same intimacy with others too. This makes him/her to grab the partner to be his/her lone lover and develops a craving that may turn into an addiction. Another psychological factor born out of romance with many is for having different tastes from different partners. These differing tastes may develop a craving for having more and more partners to enjoy more and more tastes of romance.

Here, I can’t counter the point. The friendship is indeed the best relationship for its being open-ended, boundary-less and available whenever needed without any preconditions. I had an online friend for many years, that friendship turned into a love affair. The affair lasted only for about a year, and I lost not only the beloved but a friend too. I am not distressed to lose the beloved but the loss of the friend hurts me often.